Yes, I am alive!!! I must first apologize to my readers that I have not posted in quite some time, but when you hear why – trust me the reason is a good one. When you hear the saying “life changes in the blink of an eye” – the saying really hits the target for me.
So for the big news and unveiling of why I have been missing in action… I am writing to you now – with not only a dental perspective, but also a PREGNANT-in-my-second-trimester female working woman perspective! AGH!! Now isn’t THAT a mouthful, or should I say in this case, stomach-full? But, I’ve been working full time and been dealing with morning/evening sickness, nausea and fatigue and unfortunately my writing at night had to take a back burner to the need for survival and sleep. But I’m BACK! Hopefully I’m forgiven!
Now at 16 weeks the bursts of energy have returned and the precarious first trimester is over and I feel reborn!!! As you can imagine, my family, my husband, and I are extremely excited. My husband and I are just tickled that we get the honor of bringing another person into the world to join our family and we are adjusting and embracing this next adventure. Of course this entire process is like navigating the unknown – I look down and there is this little bump there and it is just so surprising. When I’m working I think as I get bigger how am I going to see?! And of course I am nervous about birth, large epidural needles, being a good mom and balancing everything – taking care of a little one, paying a mortgage, paying school loans, while still continuing a professional and successful career. I thought the balancing act was difficult before, but I guess I’m testing the balancing act even more.
There was something that we learned when we were in school called a “paradigm shift” – defined as a “radical change in underlying beliefs or theory.” The last paradigm shift I had was more of a professional one – making decisions to work in different dental settings instead of staying in one office. Now, the shift is a personal one involving the care and addressing all the needs of a helpless baby who is depending on me to feed, clothe, bathe, burp, change…everything!!! There are some days when I feel like I don’t even get to comb my hair the way I want and get to work – now put a little darling human in the mix whose diaper needs to be changed and who knows what will happen!!!?!?! I read an article that says you change a diaper 4015 times in a year!! Can anyone say CLOTH diapers?
There are so many things that I wish I could try – cloth diapers, sign language for the baby, spending hours and hours with the baby just looking at the little angel face. But then I also want my career not to stagnate and I don’t want to forget dentistry. So in light of these conflicting emotions I have come to realize what so many of my female friends have told me. This adventure of parenthood is the greatest one I’ll ever endeavor. But I CAN have both – be a mom and also continue to be myself and continue my professional career – but I need to figure out how I’m going to accomplish that out on my own. I know each woman is different and each working woman makes the decisions for her and her family to make things work. Unfortunately no manual comes out with the placenta that tells us how to take care of the little baby – but my type A personality hopefully will serve me well and my not having any shame in asking questions and asking for help.
So now I return, writing for two – to bring you another perspective from the dental chair.
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